This week’s cluster of time involved a lot; the move from graduation to employment, and the news from New York of my deferral. I was speechless for a record amount of time. Although successful in my working life, a period of intense political and personal change led to questioning my beliefs. (My sister also questioned hers, in stating that she had been ‘mind-blown that the alphabet didn’t actually need to be in order.’)
1st August 2014
“Be with someone who gives you the same feeling as when you see your food coming in a restaurant.”– Anon
I pretended I was on holiday several times during July. Cocktails in the daytime followed by intense periods of sunbathing and trips to visit my friends encouraged this delusion. Discovering the stress of losing my university e-mail account, Graduation preparation and new-job-shopping led me back to the bar, and roughly one week after moving home, I found myself back in Bristol. The back-drop of international events was enough to tempt anybody into switching off, at a time when it was more important than ever to do the opposite. Pro-Palestinian protests were banned in Paris, after this turned into violence outside a synagogue. Further violence was seen as Boko-Haram made the news, after a shocking attack which demonstrated part of a larger problem. Confident that I had made the right decision to abandon my trip to Israel, I wondered how many others were questioning their beliefs. With an air of animosity surrounding a divided international community; had love been replaced with hate?
Even at times of political quiet, questions of the modern-day abandoning of traditional love have been considered. Is love a human constant? My friend recently described love as “not just one person’s complicatedness, but two.” Simple, yet effective, nearly all problems within love stem from poor communication; trust, respect and admiration are all affected by this. From attempting to meet somebody, to walking down the aisle, technological advances have changed communication. Although technology appears to bring us closer together, can it ever hold the sincerity of communicating in-person? Could the much-debated exacerbation of political affairs via social media demonstrate part of a wider problem: are we exacerbating our relationships? If technology allows communication “out-of-person”, what are the implications of this on “love”?
Of course, to answer this would mean defining “love”, which is subject to individual perception itself. Deciding to find answers to some of these questions (and face the fact that Adam Levine recently got married), I explored Tinder (an enlightening story for next week). Alongside this, I re-watched “When Harry Met Sally” during its 25th anniversary; were romantic relationships different 25 years ago? Pondering these questions further whilst in Bristol, I managed to Graduate, and whilst visiting my friends in various parts of the city and surrounding country-side, I realized that true friends are a constant. The countryside was a new experience, and after attempting a run in a field of cows, I justified three post-graduation nights out despite waking up as I’d gone out, and still under the influence. Including the heels. Returning home led me back to Game of Thrones, and I re-discovered my love for Daenarys after the realization that my favourite TV couples are always torn apart. Clearly, I was ready to start my new job.